I’m an MMA student (jeet kune do) and have been for over 10 years now. My studio has always focused on self-defense, and seeing as many people here deal with customers grabbing their wrists, arms, hands, etc. I figured I should teach what I know, and show how to escape these things.
First off: self-defense is necessary, and everyone has the right to defend themselves should they feel in danger. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, you are entitled to self-protection, and no matter what any boss or job says, your life takes priority!!! Put your life before your job because you can never get it back!!!
Wrist/Arm Grab Swing your arm in a circle toward the outside of the attacker, breaking the attacker’s grip off from your arm/wrist.
If the person grabs your arm/wrist with both hands Make a fist with the hand being grabbed, reach between their arms and grasp your fist with your free hand, then pull it toward you.
It’s similar to this movement, though here the person grabs their attacker’s hand and pulls it away from theirs. It’s great for one-arm attacks, but entirely insufficient for two-arm because the goal is get both hands off at the same time. That way, you can run free rather than have the attacker come after you with their only free hand.
Handshakes As simple as it sounds, many do not know where the knuckles properly are. This diagram gives the proper location INRED!!!!! I cannot stress this enough!!! THE RED PARTS ARE YOUR KNUCKLES!!!!!You can and will hurt yourself if you use any other part of your hand as a substitute!!!!!
There are 2 simple ways to escape a handshake. First one is, with your free hand make a fist, then bash it into the face of the hand attacker is shaking with. The face is what’s right between the red and green areas. The key spot is right beneath the knuckles (red) and will inflict the most pain.
Second is make a fist with your free hand, then rub your fist’s knuckles or even the green parts right beneath the knuckles as this is the most sensitive spot and will inflict the most pain. Dig into the area, and make the person let go.
I hope this helps some of you stay safe and feel comfortable knowing you now have the knowledge to escape these should they ever happen. Remember that practice makes perfect and you MUST ask friends, family, whoever, to help you practice these. They take just a few seconds to do, but going through the motions repeatedly will reinforce the muscle memory meaning, even during times of panic, your muscles will remember how to escape even if your mind does not.
dgm is about Allen putting his expectations of a happy life lower and lower and life still failing him
Allen: people hate me but this dog doesn’t!
Life: 🙂
Allen: the dog died but his owner took me in and he’s very nice!
Life: 🙂
Allen: Mana died but a strange creature offered me to take him back
Life: 🙂
Allen: ok that was a lie but I was taken in by a kind priest who nursed me back to help and gave me purpose. Also, I acquired a new best friend!
Life: 🙂
Allen: ok so that priest turned out to be not kind actually and he left me behind but hey I finally reached my goal, the Black Order where I made lots of friends! I’m so happy I can live alongside them and they accept me despite the horrible disfiguration my Anti-Akuma weapon caused !
Life: 🙂
Allen: ok so my enemy wounded me severely, killed many of my comrades and almost killed me as well but thanks to this I found my will to live and fight, I’m back with my friends and my weapon keeps getting stronger! Finally I found my place in life!
Life: 🙂
Allen: despite the upgrades we got we still technically lost. I lost almost all my friends to the creature who exploited my despair. But thankfully in the last moment I manage to save my friends
Life: 🙂
Allen: i saved my friends and they trust me but my bosses suspect me and accuse me of being a traitor but even with limited freedom I’m glad that I have support. The man I loved as my father might not be who I thoight he was, he may have not lived me at all. But I still get to stay with my friends so it ain’t so bad!
Life: 🙂
Allen: my master disappeared and is probably dead. My enemies manipulated my friend to kill me and they partially suceeded. I let my friend run with his most precious one on the cost of my own freedom. I am imprisoned, my higher ups keep interrogating me and intend to torture and I am likely to get executed. But I will take my punishment if it means I keep my promises.
Life: 🙂
Allen: some monster showed up intent to unite with me, my enemies save me, I must leave my friends behind to protect them from being targeted. I am forced to run away from home but that’s fine as long as my loved ones are safe. In the meanwhile I’m searching for a way to find out more about the parasite growing inside me. With my best friend I successfully manage to get away. I’m on the run on my own but at least I’m still myself.
Life: 🙂
Allen: he fully awakened. I am disappearing. There is no way to stop it. But I want to know who and why did this to me. My friends try to help me but I cannot let them. At least I can still rely on my best friend.
Life: 🙂
Update: My best friend is dead and I can’t even cry for him…
executive dysfunction is telling yourself for two and a half hours that you need to shower bc you smell like your workplace and you absolutely Cannot do Anything Else until you shower, doing Any Other Thing before showering is illegal!!! but you still haven’t for some reason??? you’ve just been sitting on your bed in a towel scrolling tumblr for 2+ hours thinking “I need to shower right now immediately” and growing increasingly frustrated that you are still not clean and you haven’t eaten or done your laundry either
ok actually no I’m reblogging this because a) I am clean now (and I smell amazing, thank you), and b) I had a heckin Realize and I wanted to share it with y’all in the hopes it’ll help someone else with a brain like mine.
I figured something out about myself a long time ago– it’s only just now occurred to me that I was in fact solving a problem caused by executive dysfunction, and I haven’t been implementing this solution lately because my brain went “that’s a relatively new term to me and therefore a Different problem that requires a Different solution”. thanks a lot, brain.
anyway, long long ago, before I knew these fancy schmancy Official words, the problem, as I phrased it to myself, was such:
sometimes I get Stuck. I was doing something, or on my way to doing something, and then… I just. got stuck.
“Stuck” looks like refreshing my feed or dashboard repeatedly. or it looks like staring at a spot on the wall. or chewing my fingernails. or picking at a stubborn sticker. all the while, my brain drifts through various unrelated topics I wouldn’t be able to recall if asked. sometimes I can get Stuck for hours before realizing I am Stuck. sometimes I get so Stuck that I go to bed that way (feeling especially bad for being unproductive) and I have to just reset everything by sleeping.
one day I asked myself, “why is this happening? why am I stuck, right now, at this moment in time?” the answer, as it turns out, was pretty simple: I was trying to make a decision, and I got distracted. I haven’t moved forward because I haven’t answered that one question or made up my mind.
let me rephrase this in terms of executive dysfunction: many people have expressed that it feels like knowing you need to do a thing but not feeling “ready” to do it. many with ADHD may also be familiar with the feeling of needing things to be “just so” before you embark on a task- you need your setup to look a certain way, or you need to set a timer, or have the right music playing, etc.
when I get Stuck it’s often because I got lost somewhere in that setting-up process, and my brain took the opportunity to nyoom off into Distraction Town.
getting myself Unstuck is solved, 95% of the time, by tracing my steps back to the original decision I was trying to make- often something small and inane- and then troubleshooting from there. (out loud! verbal processing is totally punk.)
“what was I trying to do?”
“was I trying to decide between two things?”
(the answer’s usually yes.)
“what were they?”
“okay, let’s decide.
“okay, that’s settled. let’s move on.”
and then I am free as a bird to nyoom in the direction of The Thing I Wanted To Do All Along, in the amazingly disorganized, scattered, yet rapid-fire way that I do many things.
so!!! in the case of my first post, where I hadn’t showered for 2 hours? turns out I had been trying to decide what music to listen to in the shower. (another hack: my chances of getting Stuck while showering decrease by 75% if I have music playing to help me keep track of time.) I couldn’t immediately make up my mind, got lost in thought, got distracted, and drifted. once I stopped and asked- “why am I stuck?”- then I remembered- “oh yeah! I wanted to listen to music”- and then decided- “I want to listen to Daft Punk’s Discovery album”- I was finally heckin able to shower. and also eat, and also throw my clothes in the dryer.
and may I add I only zoned out once, during the slow part of “One More Time.” 😛
I’m not saying this is a foolproof method. sometimes I don’t have a reason for being stuck, and that’s okay! I’m also not saying this is how every adhd brain works. it’s just how my brain works, and I’m sure there’s at least a few who can relate. for those few, I hope this helps!!
a lot of people are reblogging the original post without the update and leaving frustrated comments and that makes me sad! if I can find ways to hack my brain than so can you! executive dysfunction is a real and frustrating challenge, but don’t buy the lie that there’s no way to work with it or around it!!!
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